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Rediscovering Yourself: The importance of individuality in parenting

Feb 07, 2024

How many times have you heard the phrase, “You’ll understand when you’re a parent”? As if the moment you welcome a tiny human into the world, you suddenly lose all sense of who you were before. But let me let you in on a little secret: You can be an amazing parent and still be your fabulous, individual self!

The Myth of the “Perfect Parent”

The quest for perfection is real, especially in the era of Instagram-perfect family photos and parenting blogs that make it all look so easy. But here’s the truth: striving for this level of perfection often comes at the expense of your own identity.

There’s no one size fits all method to parenting. Your unique quirks and characteristics are what make you special, and they can actually enhance your parenting skills.

Reclaiming Your Identity

For many parents, the day-to-day duties can become all consuming, leaving little time for self-reflection or personal growth. That’s why it’s crucial to carve out time to rediscover your interests, passions and aspirations.

Whether it’s picking up an old hobby, joining a fitness class or spending quality time with your friends, maintaining your individuality makes you a well-rounded person, which, in turn, positively impacts your parenting.

Quick Tips for Rediscovering Yourself

  • Mindfulness Moments: Spend 5 minutes a day in mindful reflection about who you are and who you want to be.
  • The ‘Remember When’ Exercise: Look at old photos or reminisce about pre-parent days to trigger memories of things you loved doing.
  • Set Personal Goals: Alongside your parenting goals, set one personal goal each month, no matter how small it may seem.

Your Reflection Corner

What unique qualities do you bring to your parenting style that you’re proud of?

What’s one thing you can do this week to reconnect with an interest or passion of yours?

The Gift of Individuality to Your Children

By staying true to yourself, you’re also setting a healthy example for your kids. You’re teaching them the value of individuality and the importance of balancing various roles in life.

Embracing the Journey

So, if you’ve felt a little lost in the whirlwind of parenthood, you’re not alone. It’s never too late to refocus and start embracing yourself again. Remember, a happy, fulfilled parent often leads to a happy, fulfilled family.

Have you downloaded our free Reflective Parenting Toolkit yet? Get it here

Here’s to embracing your individuality while rocking this parenting gig!

Until next time,


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